As an attorney with over 25-years experience, I dedicate myself to helping couples end their marriage and obtain an amicable divorce through the peaceful process of mediation. However, spouses often confuse the notion and goal of obtaining a PeacefulSplit® with the belief that the process will also be painless.
In this issue, I’ll talk about the concepts of ‘peaceful’ and ‘painless’ in divorce mediation.
No Divorce Is Painless.
The End of a Marriage Is Full of Emotions
I always begin my mediation sessions by talking about emotions. In addition to being an attorney and mediator, I am also a mental health professional. Understanding how emotions will play into the negotiation and mediation process is vital to its ultimate success. However, while we never process emotions during divorce mediation, it is important to recognize that spouses will feel a wide-range of emotions during the mediation and divorce process. I honor those emotions.
Emotions can be, and often are, painful, Divorce means the end of a relationship and marriage. It means that the one-time goals of the couple to live a long, happy and satisfying life together is over. That is a real, but stark, reality. No couple ever sits before me and says “we got married and knew we would get divorced” or “we are so excited to be sitting here today talking about divorce.” Couples with minor children worry about their well-being and how they will navigate life’s new challenges. These unknowns result in varying degrees of frustration and confusion. This can be scary and anxiety-provoking.
Let’s get real. You will feel pain during this process. To my knowledge and from my experience, it is inevitable. However, that does not mean you will need to suffer during the process.
The Focus is on a Peaceful Experience
Couples choose to work with me as their mediator with the goal of obtaining a PeacefulSplit® to their divorce. They both want to lower stress and benefit themselves and their children. I focus on creating a relaxed and informal setting in which the focus is on conflict resolution – not conflict-creation or exacerbation.
During the process of a PeacefulSplit® Divorce Mediation, although each spouse is focused on their own needs and wants, I gently guide them towards expanding their mindset to focus on achieving those same goals while simultaneously thinking about what is fair, reasonable and equitable. This shift begins the experience of changing the common dynamic of WIN-LOSE and ME-YOU to FAIR-REASONABLE and WIN-WIN. It is amazing to watch the stress and anxiety on the faces of spouses melt-away once they accept this shift in mindset.
As a trained and experienced attorney and Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Law Mediator who is dedicated to helping couples in South Florida achieve a negotiated and amicable divorce through a PeacefulSplit® Divorce Mediation, I spend as much time as needed for each spouse to lower their anxiety levels, reduce their emotional reactivity to the divorce, and focus on creating a settlement agreement that is fair and equitable to both spouses.
Here at PeacefulSplit® Divorce Mediation, my sole mission is guide, comfort, and assist you and your spouse or partner so that you can obtain a peaceful divorce. Most importantly, I never judge you based upon your values, beliefs, culture, ethnicity, race, gender or sexual orientation.
If you and your spouse are ready for a PeacefulSplit® Divorce Mediation, or are just contemplating divorce, I am here to help by answering all of your questions and explaining to the both of you the benefits of a PeacefulSplit® Divorce Mediation. Both parties are sometimes on the same page. Other times there are big difference. I am available to help you under either scenario.
If you are ready to divorce, want to avoid a financially and emotionally draining legal battle, and desire an economical “PeacefulSplit® Divorce Mediation” or just want more information about the divorce mediation process, then Attorney and Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, Eric B. Epstein, Esq., is ready to assist you. Call or Text me at 954-272-8292. I personally respond to all calls and handle all mediations.