Men and women are equally likely to end a non-marital relationship. A recent study confirms that it is women who are more likely to initiate divorce proceedings. However, as both former partners begin their post-divorce lives, who has the tougher time?
We’ll talk about in this issue.
Why women start most divorces?
According to the study, which was published in Science Daily and researched by the American Sociological Association, a big reason for women beginning the divorce process is a desire for the flexibility available in non-marital relationships.
A key finding in that study was dissatisfaction with a perceived loss of independence, coupled with husbands who tend to be controlling.
A different study from the AARP (the American Association of Retired Persons) also found that women tend to initiate the divorce process – but for different reasons. The study found that women “were more in tune with the danger signs of a problem marriage.” The study also found that men were more likely to be completely caught off guard by the suggestion of a split.
Who fares better after a marriages end?
With evidence showing that women initiate more divorces, there’s research suggesting that women – as compared to men – also enjoy happier and healthier lifestyles thereafter.
A research project into the post-divorce health habits of men and women found that its men who are more likely to experience negative physical and mental health effects following a separation.
Among the suspected causes of such findings is the absence of a positive healthy influence many wives have upon their husbands. When that influence is no longer around, many men are prone to develop unhealthy habits, including use of tobacco and alcohol.
An NBC News report suggested that many men take longer to recover from the shock of divorce because they often do not realize how dependent they are upon their spouses or partners until they are served with divorce papers.
How does a PeacefulSplit™ Divorce Mediation level the playing field?
For starters, neither party has the upper hand during divorce mediation. Eric B. Epstein, Esq., a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediation, will take specific steps to eliminate any power imbalance – real or perceived – and both spouses will be empowered to stand up for themselves, their desires and their feelings.
For some, the outcome of mediation is not divorce, but reconciliation. For the vast majority, the outcome to a successful PeacefulSplit™ Florida Divorce Mediation is a hostile-free divorce that is healthier for the spouses as well the any children. The key to a successful mediation is working with an experienced mediator who will encourage creative settlement ideas and ensure that the parties negotiate in a non-threatening manner.
Hardly anyone enters into a marriage thinking it will end. Life, however, presents us with different challenges every day that often lead us on a road we thought we’d never travel.
Even though divorce mediation in Florida is a generally required if you and your spouse do not already have a settlement agreement, the goal is to ensure that whatever differences both of you are having are resolved in a civil manner, and that the resulting agreement is in the best interest of both parties and any minor children.
In a PeacefulSplit™ Mediation, I work with both spouses to keep the focus on the following:
- the best interests of the minor children;
- your divorce experience – and not anyone else’s;
- developing and implementing their short-term and long-term goals; and
- deciding about their needs and desires.
If you and your spouse are ready for a PeacefulSplit™ Mediation, or are just contemplating divorce, I am here to help and ready to have separate conversations with each of you, or, as is my preference, a conference-call during which I can explain to the both of you the benefits of a PeacefulSplit™ Mediation. Sometimes both parties are on the same page, and often they are not. I am available to help you under either scenario.
If you are ready to divorce, want to avoid a financially and emotionally draining legal battle, and desire an economical PeacefulSplit™ Mediation or just want more information about the divorce mediation process, then Attorney and Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, Eric B. Epstein, Esq., is ready to assist you. I can be reached at 954-272-8292.