June 20, 2020

I’m Ready To Mediate, But My Spouse Is Unsure?

With The Right Guidance, Mediation Is Possible For All Couples

When a couple hires a real estate broker, their goal is the same: they both want to buy or sell their house. When a couple hires a babysitter, their goal is the same: they both want to ensure the safety and well-being of their child. Likewise, when a couple goes to the courthouse to obtain a marriage license, their goal is the same: they want to get married. However, when the subject is divorce, both spouses are not always on the same page.  What happens in that situation? How does the couple proceed? Is mediation still possible?

How Can I Get My Spouse On-Board?

One of the biggest challenges I face as a Mediator is not during the actual mediation sessions. That may sound odd since divorce mediation often involves disagreements about important subjects such as alimony, child-support, time-sharing, asset division, etc. The truth is that my role as Mediator begins when I am first contacted by either spouse. It is during that conversation that I first learn where both parties stand in the divorce process and, ultimately, in the desire to use mediation to resolve their issues.

Sometimes a spouse may call and tell me: “We both want a divorce and we both want to PeacefullySplit® and mediate our divorce so that we can save time and money.” Other times I am told: “We both want a divorce, but I want to PeacefullySplit® and mediate our divorce, but my spouse is unsure. How do I get him/her to agree?”

Unlike buying/selling a house, or hiring a baby-sitter, or deciding to get married, a decision about divorce is an emotionally overwhelming and life-changing decision that not only affect the husband and wife, but their children and larger family systems as well. It is a decision that couples invariably do not celebrate or view as a great and happy event.

That is why it is important to recognize the normalcy of both spouses not being on the same page about divorce and mediation. It is also important to recognize that it is okay and acceptable for that situation to exist. When I mediate with couples, often times the biggest cause of their divorce is poor and ineffective communication. Therefore, it is logical that couples deciding upon a divorce and if mediation is the best choice for them is affected by their poor communication skills with one another.

It's Okay Not To Be On The Same Page Today - It's Normal!

How Does Eric Help Get Both Spouses Ready For Mediation?

My role is not just to mediate the divorce settlement, but to mediate the party’s decision-making process about the initial decision whether or not mediation is the best option for the couple. I am able to call upon my 25+ years of experience as an attorney having represented hundreds of clients over the years to respectfully and in a non-pressuring manner speak with both spouses and explain the mediation process and how, I believe, it is in their best interests to try mediation before heading-off to court.

Mediation is not for every couple seeking divorce. If you want to hurt your spouse, mediation is not for you. If you want to use mediation to cause parental alienation, then mediation is not for you. If you want to seek revenge, mediation is not for you. However, if you and your spouse want to quickly, economically and in good-faith try mediation with the goal of reaching a settlement of your divorce issues (and issues related to raising your child after divorce), then mediation via a PeacefulSplit® is likely right for you.

I you and your spouse are ready for a PeacefulSplit®or if your or spouse is unsure about the process, I can be of assistance. I am more than happy to have separate conversation with each of you, or, as is my preference, a conference-call during which I can explain to the both of you the benefits of a PeacefulSplit® mediation. Sometimes both parties are on the same page, and often they are not. I am available to help you under either scenario.

Eric Understands That Each Spouse May Be Ready At Different Times!


My sole mission is to guide, comfort, and assist you and your spouse with the goal of achieving a peaceful uncontested divorce. To that end, I never judge you based upon your beliefs, culture, race, ethnicity, gender or sexual orientation.

If you and your spouse are ready for a PeacefulSplit® Divorce Mediation, or are just contemplating divorce, I welcome you to contact me to answer all of your questions and explain the benefits of a mediation.  Sometimes both parties are on the same page, and often they are not. I am available to help you under either scenario.


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