If you choose to mediate your divorce, you will benefit by:
– Retaining total control of the divorce process;
– Preserving your dignity by avoiding the hostility and emotional distress that accompanies litigation;
– Maintaining complete confidentiality; and
– Minimizing your legal fees.
PeacefulSplit® Divorce Mediation
Divorce hurts, even in the best of circumstances. Untangling two lives and planning for the future not only consumes a huge amount of emotional energy, but it also takes a high financial toll. What do you envision the process to end you marriage should look like? Fighting? Pain? Vengeance? Or do you wish and desire you divorce to encompass mutual respect, peaceful negotiations and efficiency? If you choose the former, then mediation is not for you! If you choose the latter, then read on and discover how we can help you achieve your peaceful and desirable goals.
If you choose to litigate your divorce, you surrender a huge amount of control over the eventual outcome of the proceedings. While it is true that most divorces eventually settle, they typically only do so after the attorneys on each side engage in expensive and painful legal sparring. The needs of each spouse often times play a minor role in this endeavor.
Instead of utilizing interest-based negotiation to come to an ideal agreement, most attorneys have been trained to grab as much as they can, as soon as they can. When both sides take this approach, the end result is often miserable. The client senses that he or she has very little control over the terms of the settlement, and if the case actually goes to trial, the client has no control whatsoever. Many (if not most) clients are deeply disappointed with the final result of litigation. Had the clients been aware of the likely outcome and the wasteful nature of the proceedings, they would have gladly mediated their divorce. In mediation, nothing is agreed to unless both you and your spouse agree to it. That is very empowering! Your husband cannot force you to say yes. Your wife cannot force you to say yes. You will maintain control over the process.
To say that emotions run high during divorce is an understatement. Fear, guilt, anger, sorrow, and distrust are common, as is the sense that life is spiraling out of control. Hiring hardened divorce attorneys to wade into battle is a surefire way to ensure that the emotional distress that accompanies the process is magnified. Instead of working collaboratively to make the best out of a difficult situation, divorcing couples find themselves acting in ways that mirror the adversarial nature of the traditional divorce process. The intent and desires of each spouse are often misconstrued, lines in the sand are drawn, and a difficult process is made exponentially more difficult.
Divorce mediation allows couples to focus on achieving an optimal outcome while minimizing emotional distress. Even a truly hostile couple may find that adopting a collaborative mindset naturally lessens tension. Divorce will always hurt. Mediation just hurts less.
The discussions that occur during a mediation session are confidential, as opposed to court proceedings, which become part of the public record. Most clients appreciate the ability to keep their personal affairs private. Except for certain legally-required circumstances, what you say during mediation is confidential. Feel free to negotiate in good-faith because what you offer during mediation cannot be used against you if the case needs to goto trial.
Cost & Fees – Divorce Mediation
The cost of litigating a divorce in the South Florida can be staggering. Legal fees exceeding $25,000 or $50,000 are often commonplace. Do you want your hard-earned money and savings to goto lawyers and experts, or to you and your children? Mediation is efficient, personal, private and confidential. Most importantly, is it extremely effective.
Contrast the cost of litigating a divorce with the cost of obtaining a “PeacefulSplit®” Mediation. I offer several very simple, straightforward and affordable fee structures.
The cost of mediation is a very reasonable and affordable $1,500.00* flat-rate, and includes up to ten (10) hours of face-to-face mediation time. I will meet with you both and mediate all the issues necessary to file for an uncontested divorce. The mediation session(s) will include:
✓reviewing your unique circumstances;
✓tailoring the needs to meet individual and collective goals;
✓collaborating to obtain desired outcomes regarding your unique circumstances;
✓developing a choice of options;
✓formulating and securing negotiations; and
✓engaging in private short sessions (called a Caucus) to promote negotiations.
Included at no additional charge or fee is:
✓drafting and preparing of the Mediated Marital Settlement Agreement;
✓drafting and preparing of the Parenting Plan (if you have a minor child(ren);
✓calculating and preparing the Child Support Worksheet (if you have a minor child(ren);
✓reasonable amount of telephone and/or email communication throughout the process that is related to scheduling, explanation of the mediation process or other general issues.
The amount of money that can be saved through a “Peaceful Split®” Mediation is significant, and can make or break a divorcing couple’s finances. Not only does mediation typically garner a more satisfying result, but it costs a lot less too.
While some mediators may charge an hourly-rate, I believe that couples going through divorce don’t want open-ended expenses and to be compelled to continuously look at their watch to see if they are going into the next billable hour. My flat-rate fee eliminates that uncertainty.
*For requested mediation services in which both Eric and Erica serve as co-mediators, there is an additional $250.00 fee.